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In the name of the Most High. Peace blessing and salutation be upon to our Holy Apostle Muhammad(s), His pious Progeny(a.s) and His pleased Companions(r.a)...
First of all, we have to know that, the topic ‘Obeying and submission to parents’ is a very important topic. We can not bring out even half of it is important. But upon all that, we will try our best to highlight some of it's importance which we will benefit from it. By Allah's willing.
We will firstly need to visit Holy Qur'an to see what Allah said about obeying and respecting our parents.
Bismihi Ta'ala: “And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and kindness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) (bad words), nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word”.
There are many verses which Allah shows the importance of obeying the parent, but we will be satisfied with one verse only, because even this is enough for us to understand the significance of obeying our parents.
With regard to the above verse, we can understand that, Allah indicates the importance and significance of obeying and honouring the parents. Because Allah did something that we have to be careful with it. Such as;
1. Allah has connected Worshiping and Submission to Him with the obeying and respecting the parents. This shows that the honouring parents is a very important that we have to be careful with it.
2. Allah warned us not to say even the word ‘Uffin’ to our parents. He used this word because it is a smallest thing to disobey the parents, if there was a word which is smallest than that, He would have used it.
Even if we stop here, it is enough for us to understand how they are really important to our parents to us.
In conclusion; I would like to quote some traditions and sermons which narrated from our Prophet Muhammad(s.a.w.w), saying that: Prophet was once asked, what is the right of our parents; He replied “They are your (Paradise and Hellfire)”.
And it has been recorded that, the Prophet was saying that; “The Paradise is under the feet of our Mothers”
No any one will enter Paradise without the permission of the parent. However you worship God, your Worshiping can not save you from hellfire, without the submission to the parent.
We should remember that; our mothers suffered for carrying our pregnance for a long time, at least 9 months, delivered us, breastfed us. Our parents are the ones who cared for us, since before we know ourselves, even since before we were delivered. They took care of us, they fed us and took all our responsibilities till we reach youthful age. They sacrificed their happiness and rejoicing for us, they did all these just to make us good people.
For that; we have no thing to pay what they did to us other than being caring for them. We will never do even half of what they have done for us. The only thing that we can do is to make ourselves submissive and gentle to them with compassion. We should always have them in our prayer asking Allah to have compassion on them, as they did to us. We should keep seeking from Allah to bestow His Pity, Mercy and Blessings on them .
“And Peace be on him who follows guidance”
By Abbakar Ibraheem Kudan.